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will be posting up articles fr now on, tht will interest YOU, readers♥
Interesting articles wch i find quite true! :D but not fr me though.
It's fr a book tht im currently read for morning assembly.
1 article per post. but it wont be on consecutive days, cos i cant use th comp everyday
it depends on whn i can use, so, come here frequently to check! LOL.
not gnar post many at once cos 1 article is quite long.
yeah, continue reading!
PS: the 'I' in th article does not refer to me!
i repeat, this article is not fr me {:
Today's article is abt :
"Friends are not like hotels."
She used to be my classmate. We shared the same hobbies, borrowed each other's lecture notes, and had long telephone conversations.
All tht changed whn she had a boyf. She wld cancel our appointments whnever he asked her out.
The first time it happened, i shrugged it off and even squeled in excitement for her. The second time it happened, I was annoyed but only remarked casually tht i seemed to be on her B-list of frens. The third time it happened, I swore never to ask her out agn.
She did not make amends. I guess the growing distance between frens cant be felt whn one seems joined at the hip with one's partner and have him as a companion for all of one's activities.
Thn, they broke up. She called me in tears at midnight and i consoled her. All was forgiven. It felt good to put aside misgivings and stand steadfastly by a fren in times of adversity. Isnt this wht frens are for?
Our frenship resumed. But whn she found another man, suddenly, her weekends were reserved agn. Whnever i called her, she sounded preoccupied and anxious to get off th phone. Later, she became completely incommunicado.
A year ltr, i got a call frm her; she was distraught. She told me her boyf dumped her and asked tht we meet. i declined and ignored her subsequent calls.
I did not sae wht i was thinking : "
My frenship is not a hotel. You dont walk in and out, as and whn you wish."
No matter how head over heels in love i may be - and no matter how a man's charm may make my hormones rage -
it nvr gets to th point whr he takes priority over my close frens.
It's a no-brainer. My frens have proven their mettle and stuck with me thru thick and thin, while he has merely entered th picture with goodness-knows-what intentions.
Even if i were married, being with my husband wld still not override time spent with my close frens. I noe of ppl who stop seeing certain frens or resort to seeing thm on the sly just becos their spouses do not approve of thm doing so.
A spouse will nvr be able to supposrt one's emotional needs entirely and he or she has to understand tht some of these needs will have to be met outside, by frens.
Frenship brings other probs. As my social circle widens, i find it increasingly difficult to discern who my real frens and fair weather ones are.
I am not entirely sure tht i did th right thing by quitting tht frenshop. Was i too demanding? Shld i have given her a second chance?
Aft all, we rly got along and it was not like she committed sth treacherous like cheating me of my money, betraying a secret or stealing my boyf.
Still, i have had enough of
being taken for granted. Being single and available does not mean my time is less valuable thn hers.
Whn it is consistently a case of one person giving and other person taking, it is time to take stock of th frenshop and, perhaps, call it quits.
Like courtship - or even more so - frenship requires time, effort and reciprocity. While courting parties can demand commitment of each other directly, th expectations in a frenship are usually implicit, subtle and unsaid, and as a result, more prone to neglect.
You may love your frens v much, but if they dont hear frm you for an extended period of time, it's only human nature tht they wonder just how much you really care abt thm.
Dont misunderstand me. Couples who are newly in love are naturally consumed by each other to the exclusion of everything - and everyone - else. I dont begrudge tht. I certainly didnt expect my fren to pay as much attention to me as she did whn she was single.
I also accept tht whn life exerts its pressures, and one's career picks up pace, some frenships fade away. I wld be happy to rekindle such frenships. Wht i bristle at is being
relegated to a nobody whn romance calls and thn being treated like some sort of stop-gap measure whn it ends.OKAY! long story eh? {:
but i hope you enjoyed it.
WORDS in
orange means tht i strongly agree to those phrases. :D
It's becos this has happened to me once, so i find it freaking true. lol!
not only me, but also affected another 2 girls, i shall not mention who.
Yeah, not to worry, im not tht girl who treats frens like hotels.
im th one who's being treated like one! but it's in th past. just last yr.
Hate people who do tht lah ._.
I really think tht frens a much more impt thn boyfs can.
Friends are alws thr, whn boyfs are gone, they're gone for good!
As you can see fr th above, thr's this phrase tht is in orange wch says, "it nvr gets to th point whr he takes priority over my close frens."
The writer has th same thinking as me though.
Before a r/s, i will tell tht guy tht no matter wht, priority goes to my Close frens/Bffs first!
& this is true, i said it before {:
Thr we go, it's so called Terms&Conditions. LOL.
Dont like it? Thn you may fuck off. as easy as tht, you noe.
Cos i will nvr, i repeat, NEVER place close friends behind boyfs. They will alws be th priority!
Unless tht guy was my close fren before becoming my boyf, and is fr th same 'outing grp' as my close frens lah.
Den no need to care who ask who out fers, cos will alws go out tgt. And ofcourse th priority will thn be th same, or higher lahs.
Lidat both parties de frens wont be complaining abt 'Walao, everytime go out with boyf/girlf.' LOL!
Never will tht guy who was just a normal fren before becoming my boyf, and who is not close to my close frens in th 'outing grp', be treated better than my close frens.
Okay lah, i guess you all wont fully understand wht im expressing also actually.
Hard to say out here too, so i wont add on. lol.
Dear readers, diff ppl have diff opinions.
Now you noe why being single haf lesser probs. lol!
i'll end here.
stay tuned for more articles {:
Thanks for reading, &byebye <3